
Joliet Jewish Congregation
From the Rabbi's Study

Rabbi Jenny Steinberg-Martinez, JD CHT
September 1, 2025
WORDS OF LOVE

“Ani L’dodi V’dodi Li.”
“I am my Beloved’s and my Beloved is mine.”
-Song of Solomon 6:3
The Jewish Calendar is a rhythmic dance through the phases of personal and collective growth throughout the year. As we wax and wane through each moon and each season, we are asked to learn new lessons and grow. Each month has a unique mood and calls upon our souls. We feel this energy both individually and collectively.
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The recent summer months of Tammuz and Av have brought energy of heat, conflict and tumultuous shake-up. We were asked to continue to observe and pray for Israel and our own country’s struggles with faith in our hearts. This has not always been easy and may have resulted in the exacerbation of our character flaws. Have no fear, the rhythm of our dance through the Jewish year inherently anticipates this boil-ing over. We are cradled by G-d’s love and wisdom, as we move now, together, into the month Elul.
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Unlike the heat of the Tammuz and Av, Elul is a month of soothing and deep reflection. It is the month leading up to Rosh Hashanah. We are being asked in Elul to return to G-d’s love. By reflecting on the past year, we renew our connection to G-d through tapping deeply into our conscience for memories of betrayal and harm done to others and to ourselves. We move from the time of allowing the outer clamor of the world to misdirect our thoughts, words, and actions, into a time inside. We are placing our attention, not on the outer world but deep inside our own heart.
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The opportunity in Elul to reignite our loving
bond with G-d is further exemplified in the name of Elul. The four letters of the name Elul are an acronym for the phrase in “Song of Songs” (6:3) “I am my beloved and my beloved is mine.” Though often this phrase is used to describe the love between our human partners and spouses, the name suggests that we are to remember our loving partnership with G-d. In remembering G-d as our “Beloved” we remind ourselves of the merciful, kind, and forgiving energy always around us. With this return, we can courageously and humbly let go of the mistakes and pain of the past and move into 5785 renewed and full of hope.
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One practice that may assist in reigniting one’s connecting during Elul is the reading of Psalm 27. In Psalm 27, David reminds himself many times that G-d is “our light and our hope.” By reading the Psalm below for the next month of Elul together we can come back to our beloved and light our community’s way forward with an honest sense of what must change, and a deep enthusiasm nestled in our big hearts full of hope.
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Psalm 27:
G-d you are my light and my hope
you are my light and my hope why should I fear? you are my life and my strength so why do I tremble?
when I contemplate surrender to my dread of the unknown, I hold tight to you and your strength gives me strength.
I only ask one thing of you, just this one thing:
that I may be welcome in your house all the days of my life, to dwell in your innermost place in safety beneath the softness of your wings.
be my shelter when I am wracked by hardship and disquiet, offer me sanctuary and from there I will sing hymns to the darkness with openness and love
do you hear my song? do you hear me when I cry to you? do not turn away – I seek you endlessly, I turn constantly toward your light.
in my darkest moments of this I am sure: I will never be alone, yes, even if my father and mother abandoned me, you will be there to gather me up
guide me in your ways, lead me down the paths of wholeness and peace, remind me that no matter how far I may stray there is always a road to return.
though I don’t always see it I will ever trust in your goodness right here right now in the land of the living.
hold on to your hope and be strong. the time of our return will soon arrive.
WE ARE STRONG
By Rabbi Jenny Steinberg-Martinez JD CHT
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The peaceful Buddhist country of Tibet was invaded by Communist China in 1949. Since that time, over 1.2 million out of 6 Tibetans have been killed, over 6000 monasteries have been destroyed, and thousands of Tibetans have been imprisoned. When the Dalai Lama’s Tibetan Sanctuary, was invaded by the Chinese, and the surviving monks were sent out into the world to survive, he called upon Jewish leaders for advice. Why? It is because we are strong in our identity and have remained true to ourselves in a life of Diaspora. With our strength we have managed to touch all four corners of the globe with our wisdom, joy, and traditions.
The summer time in the Western World brings celebration, barbecue, swimming and fun. It seems a strange time of year for our most somber holiday. Tish B’ Av, the sacred fast, arrives this month to remind us of the 9th day of Av a day when a number of disasters in Jewish history occurred, primarily the destruction of both Solomon's Temple by the Neo-Babylonian Empire and the Second Temple by the Roman Empire in Jerusalem.
Tisha B'Av is regarded as the saddest day in the Jewish calendar and it is thus believed to be a day which is destined for tragedy. The observance of the day includes five prohibitions, most notable of which is a 25- hour fast. The Book of Lamentations, which mourns the destruction of Jerusalem is read in the synagogue, followed by the recitation of kinnot, liturgical dirges that lament the loss of the Temples and Jerusalem. As the day has become associated with remembrance of other major calamities which have befallen the Jewish people, some kinnot also recall events such as the murder of the Ten Martyrs by the Romans, massacres in numerous medieval Jewish communities during the Crusades.
So how do we honor this day with an appropriate balance of reverence and optimism? This is how; we claim our Diaspora as a beginning and not an ending. We claim our Diaspora as a call from God to persevere in the world and be a force of Torah for all to experience. We claim our strength. It is when we claim these things that we can help bring unity and healing to the whole world without preoccupation with what was lost; for we have found more than we have lost. We have found our power. We are strong!
*To read more about the Jewish and Buddhist conversation: The Jew in the Lotus, by Roger Kamenetz